This is an age of exposure, inter-disciplinary research, start-ups,social networking and impossibles becoming possibles.A time when the standards keep rising,and the best is just not enough.Everyones’ working harder than before,not just to beat others at their game,but themselves too.Outperforming once own achievements is the order of the day.
This speed vs time graph is on a sharp rise.Everyone wants to cover as much distance they can,in as less time as possible.It is then very likely to get cynical,comparative and undermining about anything that does not confirm to our beliefs.
This, is what amazes me.We talk of being more open-minded and acceptable than ever before.Yet,in our fight to the top,discard anything not slightly close to our ways,as futile and vestigial.And sadly,the easiest way out,to prove our judgements right is to downgrade the ones opposing it.
There is a word called ‘Subjectivity’ in the English language.Have we completely forgotten it?Or has the heap of information from all around us made it like a needle in the haystack,present but too difficult to find?
If someone needs to emphasize how important it is for them to be a working and a financially independent woman,then is it necessary to draw parallels between a housewife and a working woman(the difference however,in my opinion at least, is that the latter are paid for their work).I hear a lot of guys saying that they love their moms,but their wives shouldn’t be housewives like them.They desire someone who can match their pace of progress.My question,without getting into into the ‘that very same housewife made you capable of taking these decisions’ part is this-Why can’t we just say that these are qualities I look for in my spouse?Why that superiority complex?What for?
Then there are others who feel they aren’t prepared to get married or do not believe in the institution itself.No problem.No ones got any business to force you or convince you into it.But then just like you choose not to go in for it,the others chose the contrary.Do you and I then have any business to question their intelligence,sense of freedom or career orientation ?If you feel prepared,do it.If you don’t,no one can push you.But we don’t get to question why someone decided to get hitched at 21 or right after stepping out of college.Thats because we don’t like answering why we choose to do so in our late 30s or may be not do it at all.
A lot of people,in fact a large majority in the world today are doing engineering or management or other such conventional 9 to 5 jobs.”I don’t wish to be wasting my life sitting at a desk making money for others” and other such similar stuff.We all keep coming across it.What gave us the idea that all of them,at that desk, lack passion and dreams?What if making money for their organization or coding for their clients was what gave them an adrenalin rush? Who decided that until and unless you aren’t pursuing a career in rock music or doing the salsa or aspiring to be a chef or open a crazy start-up,you aren’t living life on your terms?I mean come on!You don’t need to infuse life in to your dreams and passions by extracting it out of others’.Well you should love doing what you do because you want to do it.Not because there is something you don’t want to do.Isn’t it?
A lot of us were very excited when social media began taking a more emotionally tangible and visibly appealing form through a lot of different networks.The socialites of generations both current and past were given new avenues of interaction,maintaining presence and staying connected.They loved it.However,some are also cynical of it.They feel most of it is so ostentatious and drama-like.All of which is fine too.But then come remarks like ‘We don’t do what we do for fancy pictures on Facebook or Instagram’ or that ‘Some people are always on the look out for taking selfies’.Why so bitter,is my question.There are a lot of us who love that attention,that capturing of moments,and feel their best when in a social jamboree.And then there are some of us who are taciturn,believe in focusing on work and do not feel the need to publicize it,or are irked to see behavior they consider ‘over the top’.
But then there is no denial that the social media network has its own perks when used as a marketing and communication tool.Most,if not all(and that most is definitely humungous),sectors today thrive on it.The accessibility it offers in the least amount of time is ineffable.And so some consider it an inseparable part of their work that they don’t even consider burdensome.Isn’t that great?The fact that social media has helped millions of noble causes reach closer to their vision,proves that its not only about paparazzi.And even if it is,who gets to decide what you and I are supposed to like and enjoy?You choose to be a hermit?go ahead.You choose to be a social butterfly?well no one can stop you.
Sometimes people will start comparing the lives in the villages with lives here in cities and metros.Not that they shouldn’t.Its always nice to compare and contrast.Gives us a broader perspective.But then people be like ‘people in the villages are more hardworking’ or that ‘city folks are reckless when it comes to their health and lifestyles’.These are such stereotypical affirmations.I mean,consider the parameters that come into play while drawing comparisons at least.Villagers mostly engage in physical labour and townies mostly indulge into mental work(needless to say,both are capable of doing the others job if they really want to).Thus,their struggles and their aftermaths are different too.
Its easy to prove ourselves as veracious at the cost of rejecting anything dissonant as unworthy.This is like erasing a line drawn next to yours,making your line ‘appear’ longer.The real worth however,lies in extending your own.A harmonious existence calls for making peace with all that is around.Even that,which doesn’t seem to fit in your own niche.We live in an ecosystem of a society,where everyone,the corporates,the social workers,the actors,the journalists,teachers and doctors,laborers and hawkers,the married and the divorced,heterosexuals,homosexuals and bisexuals,the ambitious and the hermits,all need to exist.Each one is irreplaceable with any other.
The real reason why we aren’t at peace with others is because we aren’t comfortable in our own skin.Coz if we were,we wouldn’t have the time and mind space to bother about anything we don’t hold interest in.We would spend all our time relishing our toil at something we like.The act of proving your mettle at the cost of those you fail to comprehend,reflects your own lack of faith in your abilities.You don’t have to be condescending,to prove your beliefs or convictions.Neither should we try to influence others,nor get into the trap of being influenced easily ourselves.
Let everyone Just Be!